ownership

note from the author: i wrote this text 1.5 years ago. Since then a lot of things have changed in terms of the feeling of ownership. However, i still find it interesting and would like to know your opinions!

today, i am curious about your opinion: are you possessive? if yes, in what way? and have you recently discovered claming ownership in new situations? i have discovered a new way of possessiveness that is playing with my mind since i am in an open relationship. what i already knew about myself for a long time is that if i listened to a certain song whilst lovemaking with a person, i could not listen to the same song with a new person. now comes a new dimension. since in theory, i could be dating multiple people at the same time whilst i am still with my boyfriend, i tend to claim ownership in sex practices yet even activities. for example i love how my boyfriend brings me oral pleasure. the thought of somebody else licking my vulva feels awkward, even crossing a line. the same goes to practices like rope play. but then, kissing? do i claim ownership there as well? and the interesting thing is not that i claim ownership but i somehow give my boyfriend ownership over me! so. if i’d date a new person, what exactly would i ask this person to do that does not feel like betrayal or disrespecting this somehow proprietarity? i’d like to discuss these thoughts with you and i am curious of finding out how you think about that!